“It’s a rare man who is taken for what he truly is,” he said. “There is much misjudgement in the world… We are not always what we seem, and hardly ever what we dream.”
-Peter S. Beagle, The Last Unicorn
I want to be that rare woman who is taken for what she truly is, free of judgements and assumptions and stereotypes that seem to circle the air like insistent, buzzing flies. We are far too quick to judge these days. That colleague who just gave you a bar of chocolate for no reason, did so because she felt like being kind, and knows you like chocolate. She didn’t do it so that you’d buy her something in return, or sleep with her, or because she wants to climb the career ladder. Some people are just genuinely thoughtful, and I feel like they are a dying breed, just like The Last Unicorn. What if there are only a handful left in the world? It sure feels like it right now, what with all the shit happening around about us. When did humans become so evil? It’s upsetting and downright embarrassing to be from the same species as these disgusting, sick psychopaths that seem to populate our society. When did things go so wrong? Why isn’t everyone being sweet to one another?!
It’s times like this that I’d rather be a unicorn. And I guess I kind of am because the unicorn is our national animal in Scotland, and I think I am nice almost all of the time, even when people push me off the bus because they’re selfish and have forgotten how to be gentle. I’ve talked about this dog-eat-dog world before, but seriously, it’s not improving. What is a girl to do? Run away to the forest and befriend the deers? Take all the happy people (friends and family and lovely strangers I’m talking to you!) and create an island where we go back to the roots of what life is supposed to be about- loving and nurturing the people around us and the planet we are so blessed to be able to call home, and continue developing and creating it so that it flourishes in the best way possible? Yeah, I don’t know any more. It seems people would rather be greedy pigs and destroy everything our ancestors worked so hard to provide us with. I think maybe we even misjudge ourselves. We think we need all of these ‘things’ to be happy, but we don’t. And I don’t know why we continue to build these crazy sky-scraper cities?! We’re meant to live in nature, with nature, at one with nature. Oh, I’m completely guilty of it too. Here I am living in a gigantic, ginormous city pretending that it’s normal to share a bus with 100 other people as I commute back and forth between work and home, eating food that I haven’t grown myself…etc etc. I am a selfish human too. But I don’t want to be. I’m trying. Even if I miss my stop because the crowds on the bus won’t move to let me off, that’s OK. It’s better than me elbowing them in the ribs like they do to me.
We must always be the bigger person. Just because people don’t stand in line in China, doesn’t mean I’m not going to. Just because they spit their food on the table and drop litter, doesn’t mean I ever will. I’d rather wait in line for 30 minutes than push in front of someone. If we could all just start looking out for one another again, that’d be great, thank you. Now, if only it were that easy. And it should be easy. If we weren’t so cowardly, so scared to adjust our thinking and our ways, it would be the easiest thing in the world. I’m dreaming again, but let me tell you, it’s much nicer dreaming than it is being one of those self-centred, narrow-minded so and so’s.
So, back to unicorns. In amongst all these cruel people, it can be hard to spot them, but they are out there, somewhere. They are the ones smiling at you, even if they don’t know you. The ones who won’t let a door slam in your face, the ones who say ‘please’ and ‘thank you’ like their mothers and fathers taught them. They are gentlemen, ladies, people who other people don’t say bad things about because there is nothing bad to say about them. They are honestly almost mythical creatures in this day and age, just like unicorns. They listen, keep their word, are respectful towards all people, animals, plants, trees and stars and they are definitely not trolling the internet being rude for no reason whatsoever. Who has time for that kind of ridiculous behaviour anyway when there are conversations to be had with people you care about, books to be read that will actually feed your mind, food to be cooked and enjoyed that will nourish your body, parks to walk in, oceans to swim in, forests to frolic in…?
Let’s please just start loving each other and doing things to help one another because we want to, not because we have to in order to get something back in return. Let’s be selfless and look out for the people around us. Let’s be one of those ‘mythical creatures’, those diamonds in the rough, instead of just another narcissistic, negative nancy.
It’s true what they say: “Being a human is getting too complicated. Time to be a unicorn.”